After 11 months of heartache, loss, emotions and fear we are finally ready to announce that our double rainbow baby will be due earthside March 2019, one week after its big brothers birthday – hows the timing!
If you haven’t already caught up on our Fertility Journey to get to this point you can recap on Part 1 – Click Here
I can now admit that I had days where I didn’t think this day would come, where we would be announcing a pregnancy to the world and sharing our candid belly shots and shedding happy tears reading everyones well wishes. We are feeling beyond blessed that this is our reality
God Is Good.
Lets take you back and Recap on the past 5 months and how we made it safely into the 2nd Trimester.
The Dating Scan.
The most nerve racking day to date, the day you potentially hear good or bad news and you walk into the scan so oblivious to what your about to hear, one baby two babies, heart beat no heart beat. Healthy, not growing ?
We were extremely grateful to immediately see a sac when she put her little machine onto my belly, and the first words that came out of her mouth “Okay, so there is only one! And we see a beautiful heart beat”
My shoulders immedietly relaxed and you can feel yourself sigh . . . Okay, were doing this!
She done all of her appropriate checks and the big question was, how far along are we! My dates were out a little, they gave me a due date 5days later than I expected but we came in at 6weeks and 5days at our scan and our BEAN was perfect with a heart rate of 150bpm and could even be seen moving around.
My eye kept being drawn to this little dark sac opposite the baby, that was empty. When her first words were that there was only one baby, I didn’t ask anymore about that black sack as I assume it was some other organ that wasn’t important!
We walked out of that appointment beaming, you couldn’t wipe the smiles off our faces.
I had a visit with my GP regarding my hormone levels that seemed to be dropping a touch, and it seemed this wasn’t what we would end up discussing this appointment, he was more interested in discussing ‘The Bleed’ I have.
Were the words that came out of his mouth . . . And the first thing he said me was, don’t google it! So what do you think I did when I got into the car, I googled it
All of the anxiety that I left behind at the ultrasound seem to come flooding back in quicker then I could of anticipated! We had a bleed that was positioned near the placenta, that was of concern.
Subchorionic Hematomas are a blood sac that are located near your growing baby, it increases the risk of pregnancy complications as your baby grows, it increases your chance of miscarriage, it increases your risk of Pre Term Labor, it increases your risk of Placental Abruption and the premature rupture of your membranes. If your Hematoma grows too large it can pull your Placenta off the uterus wall and your baby will most likely not survive, the chances of a stillbirth are very high . . .
My Subchorionic Hematoma was the size of 1.2mm at the time of our dating scan
Fast forward a week and I receive the call from my chosen Birthing Hospital, they want to see me for my initial consultation appointment – I was only 7.5weeks
There is no doubt this pregnancy has caused more anxiety and worry then any of my other chemical pregnancies, because I had seen that heart beat! I had formed that connection . . . There was a growing baby inside my body and the thought of this ‘complication’ ending this for our family devastated me.
I was booked in for a follow up ultrasound at 10weeks, so between now and then it was ‘bed rest’ as much as possible. No exercise, No heavy lifting, No straining other than your day to day movements, and rest . . . And lets hope the follow up appointment brings good news.
We had a 10week ultrasound to check the growth of the Hematoma and was absolutely ecstatic to hear that it had completely dissolved on its own and there was no longer a risk.
Music to our ears.
Now it was the 2 week wait for the big scan that puts you in that ‘safe’ zone of 12weeks, announcing to your family and friends that a new baby is on the way and finally admitting that this is really happening! And we could not wait . . . .
Sitting down with our 3.5 year old beautiful little boy to share our news with him was one of the most heart warming moments as a family we have had together, and to think that we have waited an entire year to feel and share this moment was overwhelming. We filmed the occasion and now have that moment to relive forever, and to show his baby brother/sister how excited he was to be soon bringing a new baby into our family. We captured our announcement photos and looking back on them I just melt with Love and Gratitude, that we are experiencing this journey together as a family, Ill never forget these moments.
The first trimester was Full of Fear, it was Magic, it was Overwhelming and it was everything in between . . . It was also overwhelmingly Exhausting!
Pregnancy is the happiest reason for feeling like CRAP!
And crap I did feel, wow!
I had ‘Morning Sickness’ with Noah that lasted majority of the day, it hit me at 8 weeks (the reason I knew there was a life growing inside me) and it stuck around until week 16 . . . I got to a point where the vomitting was causing dehydration and I seeked medical help, I started on a bloody lifesaving Nausia Relief tablet that I would take in the morning when id roll out of bed, and it would last me untill 5-6pm when I would get home from work and head back to bed, and in between I felt AMAZING I was defiantly feeling like myself and I prayed to god that these tablets continue to work, they were a lifesaver
So this time around when the nausea started at 6 weeks . . . Yep, right from the get go! I reached for that doctors appointment and quite literally ran to the chemist to get myself some relief !
Except they didn’t work . . . . They did NOT WORK !
I have never felt so sick in my life, I couldn’t sleep it was so bad I couldn’t eat I could barely keep my eyes open I felt like I was terminally ill. As the weeks went on it was getting worse . . I got to 10 weeks and I nearly had a break down, How am I going to do this for much longer ? I cant function anymore
I was vomiting my guts up every morning, I had severe head spins and headaches most days, I felt Faint, I had cramping and aches in my stomach beyond belief! I was a zombie trying to basically survive in that time . . . .
I tried Ginger Tea, Ginger Lollies, Sipping on Water (the thought and taste of water was enough to puke) Essential Oils, I tried Sucking on Ice, Pressure Points, Sleep, Dry Crackers
And I can tell you nothing gave me relief.
The only food I could keep down was Fruit, it was the only thing I wanted to try – At least when it came back up it wasn’t so bad . . . That was my reality
Feeling hungover every single day, all day from the moment you open your eyes to the moment you close them at night starts to take its toll.
I was starting to seriously consider the fact that I may be suffering from Hyperemesis Gravidarum – A severe morning sickness that starts around 4-5weeks and can last the entirety of the pregnancy.
Without having a diagnosis from an actual professional, I don’t know if this is what the feeling was but the fact that it was lasting so long I was starting to worry how I was going to get through much more of this and I even found myself thinking that I will never be able to do this again, the thought of ever feeling what I did in those weeks made me dread another pregnancy . . This is it !
The sickness lingered until I reached 19 weeks, the vomiting continued on to around 22 weeks but the all day sickness feeling subsided
THANK GOD! I could kiss his feet . . .
Pregnancy still blows my mind, the rapid growth is confronting, its also humbling that this baby is doing so well in there. The movements get stronger every day and we now see bubs movements from the outside which is even more heart warming.
And Feeling It !
Between weeks 20 and 24 we had a huge growth, baby seemed to triple in size alongside the size of my belly!
With Noahs pregnancy we documented the measurements of my stomach as he grew, and again we are doing this with Baby #2 and the comparison is unbelievable.
I didn’t measure this big with Noah until I was 31 Weeks – A massive 7 weeks in difference. So you can imagine I am feeling quite Large
The comments you have to laugh off, every person you see is giving their advice on how soon they think the baby will arrive or ‘Surely you don’t have long to go now’ I even had a women tell me that I looked like I had Dropped already !
Yep, thanks Susan – Ive actually got another 4 months to go !
Comparing Symptoms from one pregnancy to another can be interesting. I wonder if the significant difference in experiences could mean another gender, maybe this little one is a baby girl, or the fact that the last time my body went through this was 4 years ago – things may run a little slower this time around.
With Noah I had the baby belly, and that was it! I didn’t get any symptoms that caused grief I always slept well and aside from early morning sickness every other week was a breeze.
This pregnancy, well . . . . I have had
- Burning Reflux after meals
- Hairline on Stomach
- Soft and Sensitive Bleeding Gums
- Severe Morning Sickness untill 22 weeks in !
- Significant Hair Loss
- Grinding Pubic Bone
- Dry Skin
- and a Significant Sense of Smell
You could say this time around I feel . . Errrrm Pregnant!
This time around I decided to do comparison belly shots with Milestone Plaques and found it to be so amazing to compare with. Instead of looking back on these images and guessing how far along I was, I now how these beautiful cards to represent our weeks. I sourced these from the lovely ladies at Foxx and Willow – https://www.foxxandwillow.com/
As each week passes it feels like time is flying, yet we cannot wait to meet this baby. Having a surprise Gender again has been so fun, we image what this baby will look like and who it will be and we cannot wait to find out if Noah will have a baby sister or a baby brother and welcome another member into the family – Its almost hard to imagine, we have wanted this for so long!
PELVIC GIRDLE GRINDING PAIN
It sounds as brutal as it is . . .
Around this growth spurt is when I started to feel a terrible sensation in my pelvis and hips and it was becoming unbearable to walk or sit down.
It got that bad that I would roll over in bed and my pubic bone would grind together and Id wake up crying in pain. I would have to push off my husband to sit up fully and then try and turn myself around and then lay down again – I was unable to roll from side to side.
The baby felt like it was so low in my pelvis that the bone had completely opened up and wasn’t joined anymore.
The bones would grind together when I would bend, try to get out of the car, picking up anything heavy or rolling in bed it was its worst.
I brought up the Pain with my Midwives at my next appointment and they suggested Physiotherapy through the hospital as part of my Antenatal Care – The hospital we are using this time around has been phenomenal in their care!
It didn’t take long for the pain to ease after visiting the Physio and learning what exercises I can be doing at home to relieve the pain, and Hydropool Exercises alongside wearing a pelvic support band (The classes and Band are all of which are included in your Antenatal Care) as well as Anti-Inflammatory foods to eat and what movements to avoid – All of the above assisted in the relief of the grinding and couldn’t of come at a better time because I do feel like this baby is getting bigger by the minute and will trump its brother is birth weight.
We are currently in the Third Trimester and feeling amazing! Its like we all of a sudden hit that last hurdle of the race and our adrenaline is racing. The pending arrival of baby is near and the movements – Oh my gosh the movements are absolutely worth every ache and pain imaginable! Feeling your baby roll around in your tummy and give you slight nudges during the day to remind you that they are there is like nothing else you’ll experience.
Not something I ventured into with my first pregnancy and now that Ive been using them this time around my mind is blown! There’s no other way ladies . . .
The fit, the comfort and the support on your belly is amazing and its not untill you start wearing Maternity pieces that you realise the difference in comparison to just ‘sizing up’ in clothes.
I have been using the same brand throughout and have found their clothes to be affordable, fitting and stylish! I feel like I’m loving on these pieces more than my original wardrobe – I don’t want to pack them away!
I have been using Pink Blush and their Entire range can be found here –
With some of my Favourite pieces from their Maternity range in the images below – The links to these particular styles can be found on the below links –
I feel so grateful that this is my reality right now.
Next time I will be writing to you guys our baby will be earthside and we will be able to document their arrival, hopefully as a smooth transition into our family and as quick as time has been going lately, this is only around the corner.
Baby Grosvenor Coming Soon.